Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Signing "More" for More than More!

I have a signing question for you. My 10 month old has started using the sign for "more" but she often uses open hands, more like a clap. My problem is she also claps to show she's agreeable, so at the end of a meal, I sign all gone to which she claps but I don't know if she's happy we're done or asking for more. How do I tell the difference and also help teach her?

Great question, Tiffany I love that your 10 month old is signing…so wonderful! Babies learning to sign will often produce signs the way we do just a little differently. This doesn't happen with all signs but babies will often use what we call an approximation to the “correct” way of making a sign (I’m pretty relaxed about that word “correct” – there shouldn't be a strictness about teaching language but we do need to provide good models for our little ones).

ARTICULATING SIGNS

The sign for “more” is produced by using a specific hand shape (two flattened “O”s); a body space (generally at about chest level) and a movement (tapping your fingertips together twice.

Now babies, because they have “wee hands” often get the body space and the movement correct but may have difficulty recreating the hand shape that we use. It makes sense – they have such wee little hands! What babies often do is approximate the hand shape – they may not use two flat “O”s but may use two flat hands, or one flat hand and a pointer finger, for the sign for “more”.  

When your little one does this following these steps:

1.    Acknowledge what they are trying to communicate, “Oh, you want MORE!”
2.    Respond appropriately and quickly, e.g., give them more bubbles, more cookies, more tickles!
3.    Model the correct sign and spoken word for them!
4.    Smile and make it fun!

Hey, that spells ARMS! Yes, use our long established ARMS principle (okay, I really just made that up – but it works doesn't it!)

Watch how this 9 1/2 month old baby approximates the sign for "more" while his mom, Sharon Weisz, responds, models the correct spoken word and makes it fun!



OVERGENERALIZING LANGUAGE

You also mentioned that she is using this gesture at different times, e.g., when the sign for “finished” might be a better sign. Children often overgeneralize words then they first learn them, every four legged animal is a “dog” (or a “cow”) and every man is “daddy”.

This happens whether words are signed or said. Your little one may be doing just that. She may be thinking,

Hey, mommy, likes it when I move my hands like this. Good things happen when I move my hands like this. I should move my hands like this all the time!”

When this happens again use our tried and true ARMS strategy:

  1. 1.    Acknowledge what they are trying to communicate, “Yes, you are FINISHED!”
  2. 2.    Respond appropriately and quickly, e.g., showing her the empty bowl, removing her tray.
  3. 3.    Model the correct sign and spoken word for them!
  4. 4.    Smile and make it fun!
What signs does your little ones use? What signs would you like to teach them? 

Sara Bingham is the other of The Baby Signing Book and the founder of WeeHands, a sign language program with instructors across North America. She is a frequent contributor to parenting magazines and baby-related professional websites.

Saturday, August 02, 2014

WeeHands in southern Grey County!

A big welcome to our newest WeeHands Instructor, Cheryl D Lindsay!
Cheryl D Lindsay, M.S., (S-LP), a registered Speech-Language Pathologist, is originally from Winnipeg, Manitoba, and graduated from Minot State University, North Dakota in 1998, with Master of Science Degree in Communication Disorders. During her studies, Cheryl has successfully completed American Sign Language Level 1 and Level II. She has worked in several clinical settings in several states, with a highly varied background in the treatment of children, as well as adults. She has lived and practiced in the Grey-Bruce area since 1999. She currently lives in Durham with her husband, daughter and son.

Cheryl has received specialized training in several Hanen® courses, and engaged in continuing education related to autism spectrum disorders, oral motor disorders and auditory processing disorders. She has owned and operated a private practice since 2003. Cheryl is an active board member with the Grey Bruce Youth Literacy Council. 

Cheryl shares, "I have always used sign language in my practice and embrace that communication is vital to the development of children and to the well-being of adults, no matter what form communication may take. I am excited to join the WeeHands team and provide an enhanced type of communication through singing, to my clients in a variety of settings!"

For more information about Cheryl's sign language classes for babies, toddlers and preschool children, please call 519-506-TALK (8255); email cheryl@cheryldlindsay.com or stop in and see her at 137 George St W, Unit 302 Durham ON (above Mackhall Mobility Products)!

Do you live in southern Grey County? Which area? If you don't, what area are you from and how old are your wee ones?  

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

WeeHands is coming to Baton Rouge

A big welcome to our newest WeeHands Instructor, Megan Dewberry!
Megan is a mom as well as a speech-language pathologist. She holds a Master of Arts in Communication Sciences and Disorders from Louisiana State University where she also took a number of American Sign Language classes. Megan has been working since 2009 as a pediatric speech language pathologist in an outpatient facility in Baton Rouge, LA. Megan works with many children diagnosed with speech and language delays and often uses sign language as a facilitative language technique to aid the children in communication.
Megan shares, "I would like to become a WeeHands instructor to educate the Baton Rouge area about the use of sign language in typical development and well as to assist my current caseload of children with delayed language development."
Megan looks forward to sharing, teaching and assisting parents the joy of signing and communicating with their young children.  Megan is an energetic person who is excited about sharing her knowledge of language development and American Sign Language.
For more information about Megan's sign language classes for babies, toddlers and preschool children, call 225-229-9382 or email: megan.dewberry@weehands.com

Do you live in Louisiana? Which area? If you don't, what area are you from and how old are your wee ones?  

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Guest Post: Let Mom Be The Judge of That

by Kathy Buckworth

When Peter MacKay, the Minister of Justice and Attorney General of Canada, and notably, father of one,  made the comments that “women don’t apply to be judges because they fear the job will take them away from their children”, and that “children need their mothers more than their fathers”, (according to the Toronto Star),  with one fell swoop, he handed successful working women some more unnecessary guilt, and made Dads everywhere feel marginal, or even, optional, during the first few years of a child’s life. (I’m thinking maybe MacKay shouldn’t go after the Stay At Home Dad Vote in the next federal election.)
There are fewer women than men in every executive office and position of power; that fact is indisputable and statistically easily proven. But continuing to perpetuate the notion that a woman can’t be as successful, or shouldn’t be as ambitious simply because she has a child, versus her male counterpart, is ridiculous. Has MacKay heard of Sheryl Sandberg? Marissa Mayer? These aren’t the only two successful women in the world, although it seems like it sometimes, but they are the epitome of what women, not entirely defined by their motherhood, can succeed.


MacKay’s comments hit the news just as Nancy Vonk and Janet Kestin’s “Darling You Can’t Do Both” book hit the shelves, which deconstructs the many “rules” women have to break to find success in the corporate world.  Vonk and Kestin are legends in the Canadian advertising world, and their experiences with gender discrimination and sexism ring true to many, including me, having worked in corporate marketing departments through the 90’s. I had hoped that the next generation of women (women like Sandberg and Myer) wouldn’t have to suffer through the same misogynistic setting.

In the early 90’s, I was employed as a product manager at a bank, and as I crunched numbers in a monthly budget meeting,  was called out to pick up my child from daycare, as she was running a fever of 102. When I returned to the office the next morning, my male manager pulled me in to his cubicle and asked me when he should be concerned that my family was more important to me than my job.  Isn’t everyone’s family more important to them than their job? Was this a Mother Issue? Does it mean that as a woman we can’t have a family and be a judge, or a vice president, or a product manager?

I started looking for another position, at other organizations.  I was being considered for a job at another bank, and the Senior Vice President asked me if I was married, and if I planned on having more children. I advised him that I didn’t have to answer that question (I had two children at the time).  His response?  “I know I’m not supposed to ask you that, but I assume you want the job.  Do you realize that this a real job, not girls playing house?”  I didn’t pursue that job, although I did make a stop at the Human Resources department on the way out. He’s still at that bank; he’s been promoted several times.

“It’s not fair”, said a manager in her sixties, sitting next to me at lunch one day. “Back in the 1960’s when I was your age I couldn’t have a family and keep a good job at the bank. They made us resign when we had children. I had to choose.  I think you should have to choose too.” I think Peter MacKay would have liked her.

These situations happened over  20 years ago, but it pains me that still, today, men in positions of power, who can get media attention, not only make comments like Peter McKay did, but ultimately, that they themselves believe them. Regardless of the fact that perhaps mothers may  have a more biological and emotional role to play in the formative first years of their child’s life (a fact many would dispute), it in no way indicates that they are not capable of doing whatever they want, and need, to do, to be successful and happy. And we all know when Mom’s happy, everyone’s happy, right? 

The blanket statement that “women don’t apply” perpetuates the myth that all women, and by definition, are a homogenous group.  They’re not.  Not all women like to shop, spend hours on Pinterest, bake cupcakes or breastfeed.  Just the same as not all men like sports, hardware, and excel in laundry avoidance.

As Vonk and Kestin have so accurately written about, it’s time to start breaking some rules, further, it’s time to start making some rules about what we can, and can’t do.  

Remember, it’s only work if you’d rather be somewhere else. For the ambitious and successful women who have a passion and talent for what they do, the jobs aren't taking them away from their children; they’re taking them on a path of professional and personal fulfillment. Can’t we choose to do that without being judged or perhaps even choose to be a judge?

Kathy Buckworth’s latest book “I Am So The Boss Of You” is available at bookstores everywhere.

Friday, June 20, 2014

An Interview with Sara Bingham, WeeHands Founder

Sara, you have a very successful career. You have earned Bachelors in Linguistics and Psychology and an Honors Diploma as a Communicative Disorders Assistant. How did you choose your career path?

Languages have always been something that fascinated me even though I really only speak English. I have studied both French and American Sign Language though!

We connect with each other through a shared language and culture. It’s such an important aspect of who were are as individuals and as part of a community. Those who are unable to communicate, for whatever reason, can’t fully participate in their community and the value they can bring to their community is not fully appreciated. I wanted to help these individuals as much as I could. Communication is key to connect with those around you.

You are the author of one of the top selling baby books in America, what do you think led “The Baby Signing Book” to be a top seller?

The Baby Signing Book was written to help parents of any young child learn about language development and to learn motivating American Sign Language signs to use with their little ones. It’s meant to be both fun and functional.  Review of my little book have been very positive because it’s easy to follow, the illustrations are fantastic and it includes a lot of vocabulary that just makes sense for little ones. Parents, educators and speech pathologist love it!

You are linked to over 40 groups on LinkedIn, including Autism Speaks, Preemie World and Early Childhood Education. Can you tell us how sign language improves the lives of children with developmental delay?

Many children with developmental delays have mild to significant language difficulties. They may have difficulty speaking and/or they may have difficulty understanding what is said to them. Using sign language help children communicate when they can’t. It helps children “see” and “feel” language in addition to hearing it when they may have difficulty learning.

Is sign language suitable for all children, or is it specific for kids with speech impairment?

Sign language is suitable for all children and they will show you that they love it! Sign language helps you communicate before you can. It helps your get your point across when you are not being understood. It helps you learn to read. It helps you communicate in places when you might not be heard, e.g., across a park. It lets you communicate in a place where you need to be quiet, e.g., in church.

How does language development improve behavior?

Challenging behaviors occur because a child can’t make themselves understood. They want something; they are tired and want to escape an activity; they want to get your attention and don’t know how to appropriately.  Challenging behaviors may also occur when a child doesn't understand what someone is saying.

When a child can’t communicate using speech because they are too young, too tired or because of special needs, sign language helps them make requests, get your attention, let you know that they are “finished” in a way that is appropriate…before tantrums occur.

What do you think would be the best way to make American Sign Language available to everyone and what is the best way to get involved?

Everyone learns differently. You can start to learn sign language from books, videos or classes. I love the idea of classes because you can get immediate feedback about how you are doing and ask questions that you might not have thought of before. Classes also get new parents out of the house and meeting other new parents. That community is so important for learning and just being happy!

Tell us about WeeHands...

I founded in 2001 as a way to stay home with my own children. Since then we've grown to having more than 60 instructors teaching across North America. We we offer sign language classes for parents to take with their babies, toddlers and preschool children.  We teach parents American Sign Language signs along with age appropriate language development games and activities. The Baby Signing Book, our DVD and music CD were created to help parents learn to sign and encourage language development as well.

What are the 5 most basic signs a toddler should learn?

You could pick signs for things that are of great interest to your toddler. For example, if your toddler really like food, choose food signs. If your toddler loves animals choose animal signs. Some great signs to start with a toddler are: milk, more, eat, finished, dog, cat, hurt, stop (oops, that’s more than five!).

The most rewarding moment teaching sign language...

Oh, when parents stop me in parking lots and coffee shops to let me know how amazing it’s been to be able to connect and communicate with their babies and toddlers. Those are definitely the most rewarding moments!